How can I help
My training and experience as a Registered Psychologist and Counsellor allows me to help you with a number of issues you may be needing help and support for, including:
- Tired of having the same old fight with your partner, without it going anywhere?
- Feeling like you can’t get your needs met, whether it is for affection, love, companionship, or sex?
- Does it seem like the two of you have become enemies, instead of best friends?
- Feeling like you’re ready to call it quits, but wondering if you’ll regret the decision to end things?
- Have you had your feelings and trust trampled on (e.g., an affair, addictions, etc.) and wondering if you can ever trust or be trusted again?
- Doing your best to deal with stepchildren and ex-spouses, but feeling like you just can’t win?
- Struggling with depression and sadness that just won’t go away?
- Does it feel like your life is being hijacked by anxiety and/or panic attacks, and wondering why it feels like you’re going to have a heart attack when in social situations, at work, etc.?
- Is the stress in your life bringing you to the breaking point?
- Wondering where your old happier self went, and how to get yourself back?
- Tired about worrying about things, not being able to go to sleep at night, playing things over and over in your head?
- Becoming discouraged with all the pills you are on — and/or their side effects — and wondering if other options might help?
- Finding it hard to concentrate or focus, no matter what you do?
- Trying to make sense of confusing experiences, such as hearing voices or seeing things that other people don’t seem to hear or see?
- Stuck in a pattern where you need alcohol, drugs or something else to try and cope with life, but realize you need to stop?
- Caught between needing your addiction, but also having it tear your life apart?
- Been battling with your addiction over the years, and just ready to try something new – or really get to the root of your addiction?
Abuse /Molesting/ Bullying
- Have you had things happen to you in the past that still make you sad or angry – but don’t know who is safe to talk to about them?
- Are you finally wanting to forgive people for cruel or hurtful things to you, but just don’t know how to forgive so they no longer have power over your life?
- Have you experienced bullying as a child – or recently in the workplace – and find that it’s still affecting you?
- Have you experienced violence, war, or an accident, and don’t know how to get the memories or images out of your head?
Loss / Life Transitions / Grief
- Have you lost someone close to you, and it feels like the tears will never stop and life will never be the same again? Are you regretting never being able to say the things you needed to say to them?
- Having trouble getting over a break-up or suffered a recent job loss / disappointment, and it just feels like you are ‘stuck’?
- Have you retired, but it just feels ‘empty’ and not what you thought it would be?
- Are your parents ill, aging /or needing your care – and everyone is struggling with what to do next?
Large Life and Spiritual Issues
- Trying to find a purpose and sense of meaning in your life?
- Working towards some spiritual goals, but just finding it would be nice to have someone to talk to about your path?
- Feeling like your faith or spiritual/religious life is dead, and are unsure where to go next?
- Finding it confusing and depressing having to deal with society’s discrimination and marginalization of your sexual, romantic and/or gender orientation and identification?
- Looking for some support to find peace with your authentic and genuine sense of self in the face of society’s expectations and pressures?
- Dealing with the effects of bullying, harassment, victimization and/or violence, as a result of who you are?
- Struggling with issues around coming out, family issues, gender transitions, and so forth?
- Would you like support as a couple to sort through the typical things all couples work on, such as sex, money, families, stress, moods, addictions, etc.?
The Working Together
- I prefer to work collaboratively with you, in such a way that we work with your theory of change and/or healing (as opposed to me dictating a theory to you), and we work as a team (and equals as much as possible) to help you reach your goals for counselling as quickly as possible.
- I prefer a style of counselling where the focus is establishing a respectful, ethical and safe counselling relationship with you; a relationship where you can feel heard, understood and accepted — and one that you feel has a good “fit” for you.
- Where applicable, I prefer a counselling style where rather than simply treating your symptoms (e.g., anxiety, depression, addictions, relationship difficulties), we help you understand the causes and roots of your symptoms, help you to heal from some of the difficulties, losses and/or traumas you may have experienced, and assist you in moving forward in your life with more courage, peace and compassion.
- Where possible, I prefer a counselling style where we can focus on the here and now, and help you to live fully in the present moment – rather than having regrets/guilt/sadness about the past, or worry/anxiety about the future.
- Where possible, I prefer a counselling style where we can incorporate spiritual elements into our work together, to help you find meaning in things that have happened to you in your past, and to explore a greater purpose for the rest of your life.
- As much as possible, I prefer an approach that focuses on your strengths, capabilities and resources — so that we can restore your morale and natural problem solving abilities as quickly as possible – as opposed to focusing on what your “diagnosis” is or what is supposedly “wrong” with you.
The Why a Psychologist?
There are many different ways you can get help for life’s challenges. You could talk to a friend, family member, someone from work or church. You could also see many paid helpers, including such a family doctor, a psychiatrist, people as a “life coach” a “counsellor,” or even a “therapist,” but you may not realize that anyone can actually call themselves these things without any training at all. So what are the reasons you should consider getting help from a Registered Psychologist?
- You’re getting someone who is highly skilled and trained in helping the common challenges people face. A psychologist has successfully receiving a University Masters and/or Doctoral (Ph.D.) degree, that involves anywhere from 7 to 11 years (I have 14) of university study and internship. Psychologists study – and practice – how to help people with their thoughts, emotions and behavior, using methods that have been extensively evaluated with decades of research. So you are getting someone who is very knowledgeable and well-trained to help you with your problems, and is familiar with the research on your particular issue.
- You can trust that your psychologist is trained to treat you ethically. A psychologist – unlike many other people who may offer you services – has to follow a rigorous code of ethics. This code of ethics means that they are carefully trained in ways to protect your confidentiality, your privacy, your dignity, and your overall well-being. Also, because all psychologists must follow this code of ethics, you have protection by being able to contact a Psychologist’s professional association in case you have any concerns about their ethical behavior.
- You are getting help from someone held to very high standards. Psychologists are not only accountable for their ethical conduct to the public through their Professional Association, but they are also regulated by the Alberta Health Professions Act – so psychologists are held to a very high standard in terms of their professional accountability to the public and the government.
- Your cost of seeing a psychologist may be fully or partially reimbursed. Unlike some other people you may seek help from, psychologists are widely recognized as highly trained professionals, and the fees may be tax deductible, covered by insurance, or available through third party billing.
- You are likely seeing someone trained as a particular expert. Psychologists, as part of their extensive training, typically become experts within the field of psychology – and have extra training and supervision in that area. For example, I have specialized expertise in counselling techniques for people with mental health issues (depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc.), trauma and abuse, couples/relationships, and chronic health/pain issues.